Singular Will: It’s Already Done

Let yourself imagine and then fiercely hold the thought that it’s already done.

Singular will is one of the most powerful tools for creating what we want.  In essence, it’s holding one thought and one thought only.  In this case, holding the thought that whatever we want is already done, it’s already happened, it’s ours. When we can hold this one thought with singularity, it becomes a powerful energetic attractor, drawing to us what we want.

The problem becomes when we split our will, when we hold more than one thought.   For example, as we’re holding the thought that it’s already done, doubt creeps up and we find ourself thinking, “Well what if it doesn’t happen?” Now we’ve split our will in two, which significantly weakens the power of attraction.  Then we might think, “What if I mess it up somehow?”  Now our will is split in three and is even less powerful.

Singular will is a skill that we need to practice if we want to become masterful.  It’s not something that we automatically know how to do.  In fact, we’re much more adept at splitting our will with multiple thoughts at the same time.  One way to practice singular will is to pick an object and then focus on that object for 30 seconds without thinking about anything else.  Once we can easily do 30 seconds, increase it to one minute, then two minutes and so on until we can hold singular will for several minutes at a time.  That is more than enough to attract to us what we want, especially if we imagine it with all our senses, filled with passion and the joy of experiencing having what we want.


Creating A Powerful Thought

One of the keys to creating what we want is defining it clearly and then committing to it.

Thoughts held with power act as attractors for whatever we’re thinking.  When we clearly define what we want, it creates a powerful thought.  When we then add our commitment, we can become unstoppable. To clearly define what we want, it’s valuable to ask ourselves three questions:

  1. What exactly do I want?

    What type of car, precise job, specific amount of money, particular relationship, exact healing (etc.) do you want? The more specific you can be the more powerful your thought will be because not only are you focusing your intent, but you’re also sharpening your imagination. (In order to clearly define something, you must be able to imagine it.) It’s also valuable to always add the intention: “this or better, with harm to none.”

    Example: I want an excellent contractor to beautifully remodel my deck by the end of this month for less than $3000. This or better, with harm to none.

  2. Why do I want this, what’s my motivation?

    Is it to make up for a past mistake or failure? To prove that you deserve to be loved or respected? To try to earn a sense of worth? To impress somebody else? To finally feel good enough? Or is it for the joy of it, the fun of it, the beauty, the thrill, the wonder, the love, the opportunity to stretch and reach and grow? The former motivations don’t make us bad or wrong (nothing does), but they’re not powerful or positive attractors so it’s valuable to release those and choose a more powerful and positive motivation instead. And changing our motivation is easy – the key is taking the time to really assess why we want what we want and telling ourselves the truth so that we can release any negative and weak motivations.

    Example: I want this for the beauty of it and for the joy it will bring me and my family.

  3. How do I want this to happen?

    With ease, efficiency or confidence? In a way that inspires me and others, or reflects my character and integrity, or that makes me feel proud of myself? In a way that expands my sense of what’s possible or fills me with wonder about the goodness of life? Or with struggle, stress or hardship? Where I battle with others or feel like I have to manipulate or try to control? Where I’m filled with anxiety or fear, or where there’s lots of near misses or everything happens at the eleventh hour? In many ways the “how” is even more important than the specifics of what we want because it speaks to the way we’re choosing to live our life, which has far more impact than this one thing that we want.

    Example: I want this to happen with incredible ease and fun, where I’m delighted with every step of the process.

Once we’ve answered these three questions, we now have a very powerful thought – we know exactly what we want, why we want it and how we want it to happen.  “I want an excellent contractor to beautifully remodel my deck by the end of this month for less than $3000. I want this for the beauty of it and for the joy it will bring me and my family, and I want it to happen with incredible ease and fun, where I’m delighted with every step of the process. This or better, with harm to none.”

Now comes our commitment in the form of holding that thought with singular focus and a fierce determination to protect it no matter what.  Meaning, when doubtful thoughts creep up – can I really have this, will it work, will I be able to handle it, what if it doesn’t happen, etc. – we immediately drop those thoughts and go back to focusing on what we want, holding that thought with every fiber of our being.  When the doubtful thoughts come back up (and they will because we’re human), we immediately drop them again, going back to focusing on what we want.  Like any skill, the more we do it, the easier it gets and the more powerful our thoughts become, attracting to us what we want.


Choose Your Own Destiny

Don’t wait – choose your own destiny, choose your own purpose and then begin living it.

Destiny or purpose is the impact you want to have on the world to make it a better place.  It is something that you decide, not something that you wait for another to tell you, even if that other is the Divine.  We live in a world of free will and choice, meaning that the Divine has already given us the permission and authority to create our own lives, which includes choosing our destiny, choosing our purpose – the impact we want to have on the world to make it a better place.

“But what if I make a mistake?  What if I choose wrong?”  The very fact that you choose means that you can’t make a mistake.  You’re choosing the impact that you want to have – if it’s what you want, there’s no mistake.  The only mistake you could make is if you didn’t choose and instead waited for someone else to choose for you.  They can’t.  They can tell you the impact that they’d like you have on the world, but only you can decide what impact you’d like to have.

Destiny or purpose can be very grand or it can be very personal.  You may choose to be a researcher who seeks a cure for an illness that impacts millions of people.  Or perhaps you choose to be the best parent you can be, teaching your children how to love.  Maybe you choose a destiny or purpose of making the world a more beautiful place by sharing your art.   Or maybe your choice is to enjoy life as much as you can, finding the joy and love and laughter in all that you experience.  Maybe you choose to be a teacher or healer or a champion of those who have lost their voice.  Or maybe the impact you want to have is to be the best friend someone could possibly have.  Whatever impact you want to have on the world to make it a better place – it’s totally your choice.

And if you pursue your destiny or purpose and discover that you don’t like it or that it’s not fulfilling enough, then make another choice.  This doesn’t mean that you abandon your responsibilities – you can always take care of whatever you are responsible for and choose a new destiny or purpose, choose the new impact that you want to have on the world to make it a better place.  It really is that straightforward.   Again, you can’t make a mistake if it’s your choice.  The only mistake you can make is NOT to choose.


Look For The Open Door

Sometimes we’re pulling so hard on a closed door that we don’t see the one right next to us that is wide open.

It’s very easy to become fixated on something we really want, especially if we believe that we need it in order to be okay.  It’s also easy to think that what we want needs to look or be a certain way, a way that fits within what we can imagine.  But that really limits us – the Universe can dream a dream for us far bigger than anything we can dream for ourselves.  There are no limits to its imagination, nor are there any limits to its love.  In fact, the Universe can give us what we want in ways that we cannot presently fathom IF we’re willing to let go of whatever door we’re currently trying to force open.

How do we do that?  There are many ways, but one approach is to think about what we want and then ask ourselves, “How do I expect to feel once I have what I want?  Happy?  Safe?  Accomplished?  Loved?  Hopeful?  Powerful?  At peace?  That’s what we’re really going for in whatever we want – how we expect it will make us feel.  So what if the Universe could bring us that feeling in a form that’s far better than what we can currently imagine?

When we believe that’s possible and even more, that that’s what the Universe is actually trying to do for us right now, then it makes it easier to let go of whatever door we’re trying to force.  It’s doesn’t make it more comfortable – letting go is rarely comfortable – but since when is being comfortable more important than receiving what we really want in a form that’s better than anything we can possibly imagine?  🙂


Focusing On What Is Right About You

If we want a greater sense of peace in our lives, it’s important to focus on what is right about us rather than only on what is wrong.

This doesn’t mean that it’s not valuable to understand and address our weaknesses, but how much time, attention and energy do we give to our strengths? When was the last time we paused to think about how our love has made someone’s life better?  How our caring has comforted a family member, friend or even a stranger?  How our kindness has touched another, whether that was letting the person with one item get in front of us at the grocery store, or stopping to admire someone’s baby or dog, or complimenting a neighbor on their beautiful yard?

Loving, caring and expressing kindness comes so naturally to us that we often miss it.  But when we’ll give it the time, attention and energy it deserves, we effortlessly align ourselves with more of our own truth, which in turn generates a tremendous sense of inner peace.

If you’re willing:

  1. Think about someone who loves you and how their love has made your life better. Now think about someone you love and consider that your love has had the same impact.
  2. Think about someone who comforted you and what that meant to you. Now think about someone you have comforted and consider that your comforting has had the same impact.
  3. Think about a kindness you’ve experienced and how it made you feel. Now consider a kindness you have given and consider that you have had the same impact.

This is who we truly are – the love, the caring, the kindness. Yes, we make mistakes. Yes, we have negative impact sometimes. Yes, we’re not always prepared. But that doesn’t define who we are and it’s not what matters the most. What matters the most is that we love, we care and we’re kind. When we can know and accept that, we will find peace.


We Are the Utter Authority in Our Life

We are the utter authority in our life.

Even when there’s a lack of outer freedom, we get to choose how we respond to everything that we experience in our life.  It is 100 percent our choice. This can be scary to contemplate because many of us have been taught to blame others for our circumstances.  But when we can take our power back and really own that we get to choose how we respond to everything we experience, then that’s when freedom blossoms.

Freedom is one of the most important qualities that anyone can develop in their life.  It inspires us to expand the way we believe, to adopt healthier and more productive attitudes, to release old thoughts and feelings that no longer serve us and to make much better choices and decisions – just by feeling free!  Freedom also inspires us to dream new dreams and to expand what’s possible in our life.

What we pay attention to grows, so the more we can give attention to the fact that we are the utter authority of our life, the greater our freedom will be.  One way to do that is by owning our successes.  Most of us are already familiar with our failures, but how much attention do we give to what is working in our life?  If you’re willing:

  • Make a list of five things that you like about your life.
  • Look to see what choices or decisions were behind these five things. One question that can be helpful in uncovering this: “What would a person have had to choose or decide in order to be experiencing this?” For example, maybe they chose to move beyond their fears, or to receive, or to forgive, or to go for their dreams.  Perhaps they decided to seek help, or to risk failing, or to practice gratitude, or to allow themselves to love or be loved.
  • Then let yourself contemplate: this was my choice or decision and no one else’s. I chose or decided this of my own free will.  I could have made other choices or decisions that would not have led to this success, but I didn’t. I choice or decided this.  I did it.  Me.
  • Then own: this is my success.  I created it by my choice or decision. I am the utter authority in my life.  I have inner freedom and I can create more inner freedom – as much as I want.

The more we can own our authorship, the greater our freedom will be.


When We’re Determined We’ll Astound Ourselves

When we’re determined and refuse to give up, we will astound ourselves by what we can achieve.

Sidney Poitier, the first African American to win an academy award for Best Actor, tells one of my favorite stories.  He wanted to be an actor, but the North American Negro Theater strongly rejected him, saying that his Bahamian accent was too thick.  So Mr. Poitier got a radio and listened every day at his dish washing job and practiced his speech.  After six months he auditioned again, but was still told no.  So he asked them if they needed a janitor.  They were shocked by his question, but then he explained that he’d clean up the theater in exchange for acting lessons.  They were so impressed by Mr. Poitier’s determination that they agreed.  And the rest is history.

The Universe wants us to succeed.  It is totally and completely on our side.  We’re the only ones holding ourselves back and we can change that at any time.  And it’s okay to be scared.  In fact, if we’re not afraid then we’re probably not challenging ourselves enough yet.  New levels of success always generate fear.  It doesn’t mean something bad is about to happen or that we’re off track.  It actually means that something very good is about to happen and that we’re right on track.  And when we take action with the determination to succeed, all the help we need to achieve our goal will show up – that’s just the loving, helpful and abundant nature of the Universe.


Gratitude Is Magic On Steroids

Gratitude is magic on steroids.

No matter what is happening in our lives, if we’ll shift our focus to what we’re grateful for, even if it’s only for five minutes, it can totally change our perspective.  It’s the difference between looking at things from ground level versus being high in the sky with an endless horizon.  Gratitude lifts us, revealing possibilities that we couldn’t perceive before.  It also brings clarity to what truly matters.

In our modern world, with so many things competing for our attention all the time, a five minute daily practice of feeling grateful can help filter out what doesn’t serve us, allowing us to focus on what truly does.  It’s one of the most powerful spiritual practices available to humankind.


Life Depends Upon Willingness, Not Deservability

The wonderful things that we experience in life depend upon our willingness to experience them, not whether we feel like we deserve them or not.

Everyone deserves the very best that life has to offer just because they exist.  Deserving is a gift from the Divine.  But that’s not what determines whether we experience what we want.  Life depends upon our willingness, not our deservability, which is great news because that means we don’t have to wait until we feel like we deserve, we just need to be willing!

Most people who have won the lottery or spontaneously healed or found true love will rarely say that they felt like they deserved it.  They’re usually just incredibly surprised and grateful.  But the truth is that they were willing to have that experience or it wouldn’t have happened.  It was their willingness that allowed the reality.

So how do we increase our willingness to experience what we want?  One of the most powerful ways is to ask ourselves why we might not be willing so that we can become conscious of our resistance and then make a new choice.  For example, “I want “X”.  Now why might I not be willing to have “X”?”  Let’s say “X” is a greater sense of community, to really feel like I belong. So I ask myself, “Why might some part of me not be willing to have that?”  Perhaps the last time I was in a group I was humiliated.  Or maybe I’m afraid of being rejected or overwhelmed with activities or being asked to do things I don’t want to do and I have a hard time saying no.  Maybe I think it will be too much work to find a community where I truly belong.  Whatever my resistance, once I know what it is I can make the decision to not allow it to stop me, which is another way of saying that I can make the decision to be willing.


Believing That The World Is A Friendly Place

One of the most important decisions we can make is whether to believe that the world is a friendly place that totally supports us or an unsafe place that we have to struggle and fight against.

Years ago I was watching the summer Olympics and a young female swimmer was winning gold medal after gold medal. In the midst of the competition a reporter asked this teenager if she was nervous or scared about being in the world’s spotlight. The young woman smiled broadly and said no, that she was actually having a great time. Then she said something that I’ll never forget: that in her experience, the more people who saw her, the more support she had. She laughed as she said this and then kind of rocked in her chair, like she couldn’t contain her joy – this despite being in the middle of the biggest and toughest competition of her life, something she’d trained years for and was now putting all her dreams on the line.

Believe precedes experience. What we genuinely believe is what we experience. So when we choose to believe that the world is a friendly place that totally supports us, it means that the more visible we are, the more support we have. That the world wants us to succeed and is doing everything in its power to help us succeed. In essence, we have our own personal cheering squad that is championing all our desires. We don’t have to be scared or defend ourselves. We can be like this Olympic gold medalist, laughing and feeling joy, expecting to be fully supported as we go for our dreams.