If you find yourself struggling with something, take a deep breath and let yourself stop.
Most of us have been conditioned to push harder when something isn’t working, but that actually creates more stress. Struggle is a message that there’s a better way – a way to achieve greater results for the same amount of energy, but sometimes that means reevaluating our approach. Maybe we’re trying to force a round peg into a square hole. Or perhaps we keep repeating the same pattern hoping that this time will work. Or maybe we’re doing something that we think we should be doing, but our heart isn’t in it.
Rather than fighting and struggling and settling for difficulty, what if we had the courage to consider that we’re going about this the wrong way? Even a few moments of entertaining doubt and uncertainty can have huge payoffs because it creates the space for new ideas to come in. The classic question to facilitate this space: “If I were going to consider approaching this in a completely different way, what might that look like?” Then hang out in this uncomfortable place for as long as possible. The results can be amazing.