You are good, through and through.
Sometimes that’s hard to believe, especially if we’ve been told otherwise. Can you imagine how different your life would be if when you were growing up every adult – parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, teachers, neighbors, coaches, religious leaders – had taught you the following?
- It’s okay to make mistakes. You’re human and human beings make mistakes. Even when you’re grown up and become wise, you’ll still make mistakes. Sometimes those mistakes will really hurt you or others, but you’ll learn from them and you’ll grow and change and become more. It’s okay to make mistakes. It’s actually an essential and valuable part of life.
- You are forgivable. There’s nothing you can do that cannot be forgiven. Even if others won’t forgive you, you can learn what you need to learn and forgive yourself, using this as an opportunity to become a better person. And every time you genuinely forgive yourself, you give yourself a new beginning, a fresh start and a clean slate because that’s the nature and power of forgiveness. You are forgivable.
- Sometimes in life you’re going to be prepared and will handle things beautifully. But there will also be times when you won’t be prepared, where something will happen and you’ll respond poorly, maybe even very poorly. That’s okay, that’s also part of the human experience. You’re not always going to be prepared in life – and you don’t have to be. Mistakes matter, but what matters even more is how you respond. Again, you can learn and grow and change, becoming more out of any situation. You don’t have to live with your mistakes – you can correct them.
- What you need and want in life matters, they are both important. As a child, it’s our job to fulfill your needs and wants, but as you grow up you’ll learn how to do that for yourself, which is one of the greatest freedoms you can have – giving yourself what you need and also giving yourself what you want. And as you get more involved in relationships, you’ll learn that sometimes it will be important to put your needs or wants first, but other times it will be important to put the other person’s needs or wants first. This is actually a critical relationship skill. And when you do choose to put someone else’s needs or wants before your own, it doesn’t mean that yours aren’t important anymore. It just means that in this situation you’re choosing to prioritize theirs. And it will still be very important to also choose when to prioritize your own. Again, your needs and wants matter, they are important – because you matter, you are important.
- You can learn and grow and change just because you want to, not because you have to. There’s nothing wrong with you. You are enough right now, but it’s fun to become more.
- Within you is everything you need to become a person with strong character, a person who does the right thing just because it is the right thing, whether anyone is watching or not. You’ll be watching, which is enough. Developing a strength of character is your nature, it is your grace because you are good, through and through. Even with all your faults and weaknesses, you are still good, through and through.
- You are a piece of the Divine, a unique, distinct expression of the source of all life, of all consciousness. Even when you can’t feel it, you are connected, you are part of the whole. This means that your essence, who you really are, is beautiful, good and true. It also means that you are loved more than you can ever know. This love is your birthright, it is a gift freely and joyously given – there’s nothing you can do to earn this love and there’s nothing you can do to lose it. It just is. Forever. Without condition. And with this birthright also comes forgiveness. You are forgiven by the Divine even before you know you need forgiveness. Like love, it is a gift. You can’t earn it, but you can learn how to receive it.
Most of us didn’t learn this growing up because the adults in our lives didn’t know it either. But it’s never too late – we get to choose what beliefs we want to hold; we get to decide what is true for us. That’s also part of our birthright – free will and choice.