You Are Magnificent

It’s all too easy in life to miss the forest for the trees, especially when we’ve made a lot of mistakes.

This piece was inspired by a dear group of personal growth students who were having a difficult time seeing themselves clearly.  I wrote two versions, one for the women and one for the men.  I hope it helps you to see yourself more clearly too.

–Holly

I want to tell you about a woman that I know:

She has faced devastating situations that have brought her to her knees.  Yet she has always stood back up again.  Sometimes it took her weeks or months; other times it took years – but she always stood back up, brushed herself off and continued moving forward.

She has experienced times in her life when the true way was wholly lost.  Yet she didn’t curl up and die, she didn’t quit.  She kept reaching for answers, she kept reaching for help and was courageous enough to find it, no matter how far or long the search took.

This woman knows pain.  She knows betrayal.  She knows abandonment.  She knows rejection.  She knows humiliation.  And yet she still loves, she still cares.

This woman, in her search for truth, has discovered things about herself that were very, very difficult to look at.  While that would have stopped the search for many right there, she has continued to look at herself with a determination to learn how to forgive and accept herself… no matter what.

This woman is not perfect, far from it.  She has made mistakes, some of them irreversible.  She has hurt people.  She has caused others pain.  She has hurt herself.  She has caused herself pain.  But she doesn’t let that define her.  Oh sometimes she thinks that that’s all she is – the hurt and pain, the failures, but if that were really true, she would have quit long ago.  Some part of her knows the truth and that part keeps her moving forward, sometimes slowly, sometimes with great resistance and fear, but always moving forward.

She has gotten lost many, many times in her search.  She has repeated patterns over and over again, even when she knew they were destructive.  She has wept with tears of loneliness and her heart has ached in utter despair.  Yet she has kept going.

What is it in this woman, that she could experience all this and not give up?  That despite all the pain and terror and rage, she continues to love and care – she continues to search?  Why didn’t she quit long ago?  She had reason to, she would have even been justified given what she’s experienced.  But she hasn’t given up and she won’t, no matter what happens because… she is magnificent.  She is magnificent.

She doesn’t see that about herself yet because she has been so focused on the darkness within herself.  But the darkness is but a tiny, tiny speck on an infinite canvass of light.

Yes, she is magnificent.  If you look at her life, you can see it quite clearly.  It’s not in what has happened, it’s in how she has courageously responded.  Ever searching, ever willing.

Yes, I know a woman.  She is magnificent.  And that woman… is you.


I want to tell you about a man that I know:

He has faced devastating situations that have brought him to his knees.  Yet he has always stood back up again.  Sometimes it took him weeks or months; other times it took years – but he always stood back up, brushed himself off and continued moving forward.

He has experienced times in his life when the true way was wholly lost.  Yet he didn’t curl up and die, he didn’t quit.  He kept reaching for answers, he kept reaching for help and was courageous enough to find it, no matter how far or long the search took.

This man knows pain.  He knows betrayal.  He knows abandonment.  He knows rejection.  He knows humiliation.  And yet he still loves, he still cares.

This man, in his search for truth, has discovered things about himself that were very, very difficult to look at.  While that would have stopped the search for many right there, he has continued to look at himself with a determination to learn how to forgive and accept himself… no matter what.

This man is not perfect, far from it.  He has made mistakes, some of them irreversible.  He has hurt people.  He has caused others pain.  He has hurt himself.  He has caused himself pain.  But he doesn’t let that define him.  Oh sometimes he thinks that that’s all he is – the hurt and pain, the failures, but if that were really true, he would have quit long ago.  Some part of him knows the truth and that part keeps him moving forward, sometimes slowly, sometimes with great resistance and fear, but always moving forward.

He has gotten lost many, many times in his search.  He has repeated patterns over and over again, even when he knew they were destructive.  He has wept with tears of loneliness and his heart has ached in utter despair.  Yet he has kept going.

What is it in this man, that he could experience all this and not give up?  That despite all the pain and terror and rage, he continues to love and care – he continues to search?  Why didn’t he quit long ago?  He had reason to, he would have even been justified given what he’s experienced.  But he hasn’t given up and he won’t, no matter what happens because… he is magnificent.  He is magnificent.

He doesn’t see that about himself yet because he has been so focused on the darkness within himself.  But the darkness is but a tiny, tiny speck on an infinite canvass of light.

Yes, he is magnificent.  If you look at his life, you can see it quite clearly.  It’s not in what has happened, it’s in how he has courageously responded.  Ever searching, ever willing.

Yes, I know a man.  He is magnificent.  And that man… is you.